Love vs. infatuation

The word “love” is thrown around quite often nowadays—but is it used correctly? You feel love when you care very strongly and deeply for another person. You support them, you work with them to solve conflict, and you’re willing to stand by them in good times and bad.

Just like love, infatuation (or lust) is powerful. It gives you goosebumps, and swarms your thoughts with wonderful daydreams. Having this sort of “crush” can be a lot of fun, but the feelings of infatuation can be so intense that we often mistake them for love. Differences between the two include:

Love gradually becomes deeper and more powerful over time. Infatuation is often powerful more immediately, but short-lived.

We see it all the time in TV and movies—people meeting and having a strong physical attraction immediately. Unfortunately, they almost always call it love—which is nonsense. True love begins great, and continues to get increasingly greater. Though infatuation can initially feel just as powerful, it fades fast.

Love considers the other person. Infatuation is selfish.

People who are in love value each other’s feelings over “winning” a dispute. They would rather spend time enjoying each other than proving themselves right. True love survives and solves conflict, while infatuation simply glosses over it.

Love accepts the entire person, imperfections and all. Infatuation flourishes on perfection.

Love goes beyond physical attraction—it values the person’s mind, body, and soul. A person who is in love accepts every flaw of their significant other, and does not ask them to change for selfish reasons. On the other hand, infatuation focuses on the physical and attempts to hide or change the other person’s flaws.

Love brings you up. Infatuation eventually brings you down.

Love is energizing; it improves your overall disposition and makes you feel like your best self. Thinking about the person you’re in love with brightens your spirits and makes you feel happy. On the contrary, infatuation feels draining. It brings out jealousy and obsessiveness in each other, and can cause you to neglect other relationships.

What does it mean to love someone? It’s helpful to outline the differences between love and having a “crush.”

Love allows you to be yourself. Crushes are all about perfection.

Love accepts the other person’s flaws. Crushes suppress them.

Love goes beyond looks. Crushes revolve around physical attraction.

Love develops overtime. Crushes occur right away.

Love can last a while. Crushes are often short-lived.

Love makes you energetic. Crushes tired you out.

Love makes you happy. Crushes make you jealous.

Both love and crushes are powerful.

Remember… infatuation is very normal, and it’s bound to happen—you’re not going to fall in love with every person you meet! Just make sure both people in the relationship are on the same page.

source: sexuality resource center for parents

boundaries of physical touch

Problems tend to arise in a relationship when we don’t realize that people have different ways of giving love. Some people prefer to talk about their feelings, while others prefer the “love language” of touch. 

Current research shows that physical touch can provide many health benefits, like improved attitude and feelings of connection—but this doesn’t exclusively apply to sex. Sometimes, holding your partner’s hand, rubbing their shoulders, or ending an argument with a hug is all it takes to say, “I love you.” Just keep one thing in mind: no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, both you and your partner should know each other’s wants, goals, fears and limits. You both should always feel comfortable communicating your honest needs, without fear of your partner’s response.

Establishing Physical Boundaries

Getting physical with your partner should never happen if you’re not ready. A healthy relationship involves both partners knowing each other’s limits, and they communicate to each other if something changes.

It’s also important to understand that you don’t owe your partner anything in a relationship, and sex isn’t currency. It’s never fair for your partner to claim you don’t care about them if you’re not ready to have sex. Even if you’ve done it before, pressure is completely unacceptable.

Below are some thoughtful responses to unwanted pressure:

Talk about your decision to refrain from sex

It’s important to explain your desire not to have sex as soon as things become romantic. You can reassure your partner that it has nothing to do with a lack of feelings, or your level of commitment. You can also remind them that you don’t want to ruin a great relationship by doing something you’re not ready to do. This conversation takes a lot of courage, however, talking things out is much healthier than keeping things deeply hidden.

Know where you stand in your convictions

Are you willing and able to bear the responsibility of having sex? Do you want to be a person who waits until they are married? If so, why? It’s important to let your partner know what you believe in so you are not pressured to give in. Most people with a clear understanding of what they believe in are less susceptible to do things they don’t want to do.

Learn what real love is while you wait

The term love is one of the most used and abused words in the dictionary. Here’s the catch; love never demands someone to do something that would violate the other, or trash his or her deeply held values. Real love is patient, and always looks after the other person.

Sometimes, a man will say that if a girlfriend really loves him, she will be willing to have sex. This means two things—either he doesn’t know what love is, or he’s lying about loving her. It’s easy to believe a lie when you have strong feelings for someone, but it’s certainly not easy to face the consequence of believing in that lie.

If the pressure continues

It’s best to get rid of any partner that is pressuring you to have sex. Pressure is a big red flag that something isn’t right in your relationship, and it’s never worth any future regret. Sex is not an indicator of love, or even your level of commitment.

Beyond Sexual Relationships

Abusive physical touch can also be nonsexual. Any force during an argument, whether it involves the abuser holding down their partner, physically restraining their partner from leaving, or pushing or shoving are crucial warning signs. Holding someone back in order to make demands is also a show of force.

If you are worried about the physical boundaries of your relationship, talk to someone. You should never feel anything but 100% comfortable with your partner’s physical touch.

Remember, domestic violence is “the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another,” (NCADV). For anonymous, confidential help available 24/7, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) now.

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs pregnancy medical services, community referrals and even advice! To receive help today, please call us at (858) 397-1970, text at (858) 822-9335, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

STD Blog

What do I need to know about STDs?

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Chances are, you’ve heard about STDs before. You might have heard of some of the most common ones —but unless you’ve personally dealt with a sexually transmitted disease, that’s likely the full extent of your knowledge.

Are you aware of the most common STDs among American women? Do you know what symptoms to look for, or the resources available to you? We’re dedicated to providing women with information and resources to keep them healthy and happy.

 

The Treatable

Chlamydia

The most common curable STD is Chlamydia, a bacterial infection that usually has no symptoms, which is why screening for the infection is crucial. It spreads through sexual contact with the penis, vagina, mouth or anus of an infected person, and it can also be passed from a pregnant woman to her baby during childbirth.

There are almost 3 million new cases of Chlamydia each year in the United States. An infected person can be treated with antibiotics, but can get the infection again. Without treatment, Chlamydia can cause serious health problems and infertility. Latex condoms are effective in preventing the disease.

 

Gonorrhea

This STD occurs when bacteria infects the lining of a woman’s reproductive tract, and can also develop in the urethra, mouth, throat, eyes and anus of both men and women. It spreads through sexual contact, and like chlamydia, can be transferred to a baby during childbirth.

People with gonorrhea often have mild or no symptoms, and treatment involves two different antibiotics. Without treatment, women are more prone to develop pelvic inflammatory disease, which increases the risk of infertility and pregnancy complications.

 

Trichomoniasis

Trichomaniasis is the most common sexually transmitted disease among sexually active young women, with more than a million new cases in the US each year. The infection is caused by a parasite that passes from one person to another during sex, and usually develops in the genital area. In women, trich causes a vaginal infection called vaginitis.

Trichomoniasis normally doesn’t cause symptoms, but some people experience burning or itching during urination and intercourse, irregular discharge, or strong vaginal odor. The disease is usually treated with a single oral dose of metronidazole, which is also used to treat bacterial vaginosis.

It is also important that your sexual partners be treated for trich at the same time as you are (whether male or female), or else you will simply pass the disease back and forth. Those that are infected with trichomoniasis are more susceptible to infection by HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Pregnant women with trich are more likely to have a pre-term birth and a low birth weight baby.

 

Syphilis

Syphilis is an STD that can cause long-term complications if not treated correctly. Symptoms in adults are divided into stages: primary, secondary, latent, and late syphilis. The late stage can occur 10-30 years after infection.

Syphilis is typically spread by direct contact with a sore during vaginal, anal, or oral sex. It can also be spread from an infected mother to her unborn baby. Pregnant women with syphilis are also more likely to deliver their babies too early or stillborn.

Since syphilis sores can be hidden in places like the vagina, anus, and mouth, it may not be obvious that a partner is infected. Unless you know that a partner has been tested and treated, you may be at risk.

While syphilis can be cured with proper antibiotics, treatment cannot undo any damage that the infection has already caused. Having syphilis once does not protect you from getting infected again.

 

The Untreatable

Human Papilloma Virus

Human papilloma virus, or HPV, is possibly the most common sexually transmitted disease, and can infect the genitals, mouth, and throat. A study conducted in 2007 concluded that one-quarter of the population of sexually active women are infected at any given time.

Contrary to popular belief, only a few types of HPV are linked to cervical cancer. The other 40+ strains cause genital warts, other warts, or no symptoms at all.

Though HPV is considered incurable, its symptoms can be treated, and most people resolve infections on their own. Most people infected with harmful strains of HPV have no symptoms until they develop other health issues.

 

Genital Herpes

Genital Herpes comes from the herpes simplex virus, type 1 (most often associated with cold sores) or type 2 (most often associated with genital sores), and it affects more than a quarter of the population. The infection can be caused by vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who is infected, meaning it is possible to transmit herpes from the mouth to genitals and vice versa.

Some people with herpes experience mild symptoms or none at all. Other people have outbreaks of lesions that look like blisters around their genitals, rectum, or mouth, which can break open and become painful sores that take a long time to heal. The fluid inside the herpes sores contains the virus.

Outbreaks can happen again and again, but typically become shorter and less severe over time. Since the virus can spread through the skin, infection can be caused by contact, however, infected people can still pass the virus even if they don’t have sores.

Though there is no cure for herpes, doctors can prescribe medicines that ease the pain and help prevent and shorten outbreaks. Herpes infection can be deadly to infants, but luckily, infection transmission during pregnancy is relatively rare. Mothers infected with genital herpes should discuss their diagnosis with an obstetrician, and a cesarean section may be recommended if there is an active outbreak during the time of birth.

In addition to these six infections, there are several other sexually transmitted diseases that affect American women. Lucky, regular testing can keep you in track of your sexual health even when symptoms are unnoticeable.

For more information about different types of STDs, symptoms and testing, click here. If you had unprotected sex and are worried you might be pregnant or have an STD, you can make a free appointment with us by clicking here.

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs pregnancy medical services, community referrals and even advice! To receive help today, please call us at (858) 397-1970, text at (858) 822-9335, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

Unprotected Sex

If you’ve just had unprotected sex, there are so many emotions and thoughts running through your mind. Like so many others that have been in this situation, you’re probably having trouble getting your head around what just happened and you’re looking for advice. The most important thing is to take care of yourself. Here are 5 things that you should do after having unprotected sex.
Don’t Panic
Although this might be your first instinct, it’s important to stay calm. Having a one-night stand or not using protection with your significant other can leave you with feelings of shame or regret. Take some time to assess the situation and clear your head, and realize that your self-worth is not the sum of your decisions.
Talk To Someone You Trust
If you’re still upset, it might help to talk to a family member or close friend. Whether you’re looking for advice or maybe just comfort, talking to someone you trust can help you to calm yourself down, and possibly help to identify your next step.
Test For STDs
Even if you used a condom, it’s still possible for you to get an STD. STDs can spread through sexual and oral contact. If left untreated, STDs can become worse and potentially life threatening. However, most STDs can be treated or managed with medication, especially if caught early. If you think you or your partner might have an STD, it’s important to get tested two weeks after having sex, and then go back in for a follow-up appointment to make sure you’re all clear.
Monitor For Pregnancy
If you think you might be pregnant and you’re worried you’ve missed your period, it might be time to take a pregnancy test. Home pregnancy tests are most accurate if taken one week after your missed period. But be aware, home pregnancy tests can produce false negatives. It’s best to schedule an appointment for a medical-quality pregnancy test
Visit A Pregnancy Resource Center
A pregnancy resource center can confirm your pregnancy through a pregnancy test, test for STDs and even administer an ultrasound. If you’re worried about your next steps, our friendly and knowledgeable staff can give you the resources you need to make an informed decision about your future.

 

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs medical care, community referrals and even parenting advice! To receive help today, please call us at 858-397-1970, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

How to Decompress After the Holidays

Like plants and animals, humans intuitively know they need to rest during the winter months to prepare for the renewal of spring; it’s an ideal time of year to treat yourself extra well, cleanse your body, and re-energize. Unfortunately, stress is a fact of life for many of us during and after the holidays. Between the parties, shopping, and hectic work and travel schedules, we all could set some “me time” to decompress and re-focus. Follow our tips below and put aside a few minutes—or even hours—for self-care each day. You won’t regret it!

 
Give Your Body What It Needs
Start your day off right by eating breakfast before you fill up on coffee. Caffeine on an empty stomach causes blood sugar levels to spike, leading to attention problems and irritability.

Foods that are rich with Omega-3, like fatty fish, walnuts, flaxseeds and enriched eggs can combat the stress hormone called cortisol. Care to savor a spicy dish instead? Hot foods trigger the release of endorphins, which are natural chemicals that cause feelings of euphoria and well-being.

In the evening, try to drink caffeine-free tea with calming acids, such as chamomile, Sleepy Time, or green tea. Sweeten it up with a spoonful of honey; research shows that its antioxidant and antibacterial properties may improve your immunity.

In addition to food and drink, essential oils can do wonders to improve your temperament. Researchers studying depression have found that certain citrus scents boost feelings of well-being and alleviate stress by upping levels of norepinephrine, a hormone that affects mood.

 
Get Up And Get Moving
It’s important to give yourself 15 minutes of fresh air a day, since sunlight provides us with vitamin D (even when it’s overcast). The rhythm and repetition of a brisk, half-hour walk has a tranquilizing effect on the brain, decreasing anxiety and improving sleep. Exercise also releases endorphins, a chemicals that interacts= with receptors in the brain to trigger a positive feeling in the body. Research has found that workouts can boost your mood for up to 12 hours at a time!

For a less intense regimen, consider meditation, yoga or t’ai chi—basically anything that involves deep breathing. Breathe in through your nose and exhale through your mouth; your stomach should rise and your chest should move very little. The key to deep breathing is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible in your lungs. The more oxygen you get, the less tense, short of breath, and anxious you feel.

 
Take Time To Wind Down
When trying to decompress from the holidays, it’s helpful to go to bed earlier than usual—ideally by 10 pm. Wind down by reading a book or taking a warm bath; just be sure to avoid any screens at least an hour before you plan to go to sleep. New research shows that reading from a device such as an iPad before bed not only makes it harder to fall asleep, but also impacts how sleepy and alert you are the next day. Many people report that their stress increases when the length and quality of their sleep decreases.

You can also try to replace electric lighting with candles and put relaxing music on. Research from the University of Maryland shows that listening to music you love can relax blood vessels and increase blood flow, which not only calms you down but is also good for the heart.

 

No matter which method you choose to combat holiday exhaustion, you can cultivate some habits to keep you centered for the rest of the year!

 

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs medical care, community referrals and even parenting advice! To receive help today, please call us at 858-397-1970, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

be a consumer of experience not things this holiday season

The holiday season is in full swing, which means retail stores all over the world are packed with shoppers, trying to find the perfect gift for friends and family. If you’re a planner, you might have already thought about what you’re getting your loved ones for the holidays.

But, think about this for a second: How many times has holiday shopping stressed you out? It can be hard to find the right present for everyone on your list, not to mention it’s expensive and time-consuming! Then, you run the risk of getting them something they may not even like.

Get them something they can’t re-gift this year – experience.

Think back to the holidays when you were a child. You might remember a favorite gift from one year, but the one thing that transcends time is the memories and traditions. It’s baking your grandma’s sugar cookies every year, or caroling with your brother and sister, or picking out the perfect turkey with your dad. Those are the types of gifts that we treasure forever.

This year, give a gift that indulges all the 5 senses instead of something that will collect dust on a shelf and soon be forgotten.

Here are 5 ideas on how you can enjoy the holidays through experiences, not things this year:
Cooking/Baking Classes
Grab a group of friends or your significant other and sign up to take a holiday-themed cooking classes. Learn how to make a special dish together and then recreate it for a holiday meal with your family and friends.
Weekend Trip
Take a weekend trip somewhere! In the spirit of the holidays, find a city with a great light display, a Christmas tree farm, or maybe a replica of the North Pole. Pack the car, grab some sandwiches or snacks and spend the weekend exploring a new place.
Holiday Cheer
Whether this means watching a holiday movie every week, spending a weekend decorating your home with your family, or going to see the lights in your town, take some time out of your week to spend time with those special people in your life, making memories that you’ll remember year after year.
Giving Back
‘Tis the season of giving – and not just to your friends and family, but to those who are in need. Sign up to serve food at your local homeless shelter or host a toy or food drive in your neighborhood. Bringing joy to others’ lives will get you in the holiday spirit and inspire others to do the same!
See a Show
When was the last time you went to the theatre? There’s something magical about seeing a live performance, and during the holiday season, there are plenty of amazing options. See if your local theatre is performing “The Nutcracker” ballet or “A Christmas Carol.” It’s a great excuse to get dressed up and spend a night on the town with someone special.

For many people, true happiness doesn’t come from things wrapped in pretty paper and bows, but instead comes from experiencing – doing! The holiday season is the perfect time to get out and experience life. So, this year, get together with the people that you love and accumulate memories, not things.

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs medical care, community referrals and even parenting advice! To receive help today, please call us at 858-397-1970, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

Parenting Styles for Pregnant Women to Consider: Why Involvement Matters

An unplanned or unexpected pregnancy creates both short-term and long-term anxiety. Women (especially young women – who suddenly face a surprise pregnancy must deal with immediate concerns, such as:

  • Determine gestation period
  • Communicate with family members
  • Implement optimal health habits

But there are those way-in-the-future considerations, too. But they’re not as far in the future as you’d think. One non-immediate concern for any pregnant woman and their spouse or partner is a simple, yet complicated question: “What kind of parent will I be?”

Stay Involved – Parenting is a 24/7 Endeavor, But It’s Fun, Too!

While no two parenting styles are exactly the same, there are a few proven techniques that every successful parent follows. Through our experience in mentoring pregnant women and new mothers, these are the best ways to ensure children are given the best opportunity for a bright future:

Be a parent first, and friend second.

Young children require guidance, first and foremost. While it’s tempting to be a “buddy” to your child, remember that your #1 job as a parent is parenting. It sounds obvious, but needs to be stressed.

Set firm rules – and follow through with appropriate consequences.

Chores, on-time homework and other daily and weekly tasks are a great way for parents to offer crucial input and guidance. Whenever a rule is broken, be firm and resolute in carrying out punishment. But on the flip side, good parents also reinforce good behavior with rewards and incentives.

Don’t micromanage.

Try as many parents might, kids are bound to make mistakes. Yet the best way to help them learn through the ups and downs is to let them solve problems on their own. Put up guiderails; don’t grab the wheel every time your child appears to falter.

Offer daily encouragement.

Despite today’s busy schedules with work, school and extracurricular activities, parents should always “connect” with their kids for at least a few minutes per day, preferably more. Even a  5-minute discussion about their day can spur positive personal development. Children thrive on positive affirmation, so make sure you set aside time each day to answer questions, offer advice, and just tell them they’re loved!

Promote a healthy lifestyle.

While most kids aren’t crazy about broccoli, you can still try creative ways to cook healthy yet tasty meals. Exercise is important, too – sports and other activities foster development and help build strong bodies. And don’t forget about sleep. A growing child benefits greatly from a restful night’s sleep.

Roll with the punches.

As discussed above, no parent has ever raised a child without a few bumps and hiccups along the way. So don’t make mountains out of mole hills; learn to take each day as it comes, and realize that not everything is in your control. Come to grasp with this concept, and raising a child will be more rewarding, enjoyable and unforgettable than you ever imagined!

 

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs medical care, community referrals and even parenting advice! To receive help today, please call us at 858-397-1970, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

The Best Budgeting Tips for Single Parents

Regular two-parent households can be hectic enough, but there are additional challenges for families with one primary provider. Single parents have a lot to keep track of. Baby. Bottles. Bibs. Blankets.

And budgets? You bet.

Properly managing your money is one of the best things you can do as a single parent. Your money has to stretch further for regular expenses, and you also have to be ready for the occasional emergency, like car repairs, emergency room visits and more.

Sound like an impossible task? Without a budget it does. But with a disciplined financial oversight plan in place, anything’s possible…in fact, it’s downright probable!

Single Parent, Multi-Faceted Budget: Making Your Money Work for You

Too often, single parents are controlled by their money. But it should be the other way around – you should control your money. Well, it’s time to turn the tables.

Take advantage of tax credits.

  • Every April 15th, give your budget a boost with federal tax credits designed to aid single parents. Check the IRS website for the latest credits available.

Don’t forget about retirement

  • Kicking back on a beach somewhere 40 years in the future might be the furthest thing on a single parent’s mind when raising a child, and that’s OK. However, financial advisors encourage every parent to invest in their own future, even if it’s as little as $10 or $20 per month. With the power of compound interest, you can have quite a nest egg by the time you reach your golden years.

Pay yourself first

  • Always give yourself a small percentage of your take-home pay, and keep an emergency savings fund for those unexpected costs – and as a single parent, there will be more than you think.

Stick to a budget

  • As financial guru Dave Ramsey says, every dollar should have a mission. Aim for detail with your budget, so you know exactly where every dollar is going each month.

Stay out of debt, and pay your bills on time

  • These two go hand in hand, but they’re absolutely essential for financial freedom.

Turning Point’s counselors offer a wide range of advice and knowledge for single parents, including budget and financial assistance. For more information about all the ways we can help, please visit our main office in Miramar, stop by our Mobile Pregnancy Clinic in Mountain View, or call us at 858-397-1970.

 

 

Tips on Becoming an Amazing Father

While Turning Point is known for assisting women in crisis, we haven’t forgotten about the men out there in San Diego County! From our Brothers in Arms initiative to one-on-one counseling, we have the support personnel, programs and compassion to help fathers-to-be prepare for one of the most joyous, exciting and unpredictable time in their lives – the onset of fatherhood!

Author Scott Kelby, author of The Book for Guys Who Don’t Want Kids, recently unveiled a few of his tips to become a great father. Forged from personal experience, Mr. Kelby’s advice rings true for would-be fathers of any age or background.

Here are some highlights:

Return to “normal” when you can

  • Pre-child and post-child lives are like two different worlds, but it helps to reclaim a sense of “normalcy” whenever you can. Take trips with your child. Don’t be afraid of restaurants. Life the life you used to, with your child along for the ride!

Don’t worry, be happy

  • Easier said than done, but think about it: you helped bring a bouncing baby into this world, so enjoy the moment – and all the upcoming, unforgettable moments as well. Worry about the future when the future arrives. But for now, relish the experience of fatherhood!

Help carry the load

  • Part of becoming a great father is becoming a great partner or spouse. Help with feeding, changing diapers and other tasks – you’ll gain a greater bond with your child, and mom will appreciate the gestures as well!

Keep your “advice filter” on

  • Everyone from your Uncle Dave (everyone has an Uncle Dave) to your friends will offer their input on the best way to raise a child. Use what works for you; not everything you hear applies to your particular family.

The Turning Point Pregnancy Resource Center helps mothers and fathers, and we’re always here to help! Don’t hesitate to contact us; for a helping hand with fatherhood or a different perspective, please give us a call at 858-397-1970

The Advantages of an Unexpected Pregnancy

At Turning Point, we’ve helped hundreds of women deal with unplanned and unexpected pregnancies. One common thread we’ve noticed throughout each individual case – and no two paths to motherhood are exactly the same – is that every unplanned pregnancy has its own silver lining.

Despite the exasperation, desperation, stress, anxiety, fear, and the overwhelming rollercoaster of emotions that invariably impact every woman in this situation, look on the bright side: there are actually advantages to an unplanned pregnancy!

 

The Positives of Pregnancy: Embracing the Moment – and Eventually, Your Child!

 

Mistimed or unwanted pregnancies, according to recent data, account for nearly half of all pregnancies in the United States. Hey, there’s one positive already: you’re not the only one going through this trying situation.

But there are more – plenty more, as we’ve discovered through the years. And here are just some of the advantages of an unplanned pregnancy:

 

  • You become more disciplined

    The sudden knowledge of a pregnancy concentrates the mind wonderfully. Your newfound discipline may take many forms; dietary, financial, personal, you name it. When you’re living for another person and not just yourself, you tend to “button up” some of your bad habits naturally.

  • Firmed-up finances

    Regardless of your income, an unplanned pregnancy requires sound financial decisions. Many young mothers are surprised at how less stressful their financial situation is after becoming pregnant. From the pre-delivery planning to post-birth expenses, an unplanned pregnancy just has a way of unintentionally optimizing your financial life.

  • You’ll never have to make an excuse again.

    Before your unplanned pregnancy, getting out of something you didn’t want to do required a little creative talking. In its own way, an unplanned pregnancy is the ultimate “line in the sand” for your personal life. Plus, you may just end up dropping a few bad time-wasting habits along the way, too!

  • You’ll gain a better perspective – in everything you do.

    If you’re the “perfect planner” type, be prepared to live life differently. Few things happen on a flawless schedule, as an unplanned pregnancy so obviously illustrates. But the pregnancy is just the beginning; raising a child takes guts, perseverance, honesty, love, courage, faith and a thousand other things. Most of all, an unplanned pregnancy shows that you’ll make mistakes – and sometimes, those “mistakes” end up being the best thing that could possibly happen to you!

From our standpoint, the greatest advantage of an unplanned pregnancy is the end result: your newborn child. And even if you’re unsure of where your pregnancy will take you or your baby, Turning Point has the resources, counseling and support structure in place – we’ll even help you find an adoption agency, if that’s your ultimate decision – to ensure your unplanned pregnancy has more advantages than you ever thought possible!

If you’d like to talk with one of our unplanned pregnancy mentors, please call our main office at 858-397-1970. Our Miramar office in northern San Diego is now supplemented by the Turning Point Mobile Pregnancy Clinic in Mountain View, located in the southern section of the city. From every direction, we’re here to help you regardless of your individual situation. Please call and get help today – and thanks for reading our blog!