tinder dating advice

Why Tinder isn’t the best way to meet and build meaningful relationships

If you’ve used the popular dating app, Tinder, in the past, you probably are aware of how demeaning the process can be. Constantly judging and being judged solely on appearances can take a toll on your self-esteem above other things. Tinder fuels the culture we live in, from one-night stands to viewing other people as literal sex objects. Below are the reasons you should avoid Tinder if you want to meet new people and build healthy relationships with them.

1. Modern Hit & Run.

The Guardian calls it the “hit-it-and-quit-it” and the “throwaway dating” culture. No matter what you call it, both men and women are using Tinder to find others who want to hook up just once and never speak again. Users also go in knowing that they’re not going to find a lasting and serious relationship. How can you build a meaningful relationship if the other person never sees you again? There’s something to be said about the benefits of guarding your heart and your body for the right person, instead of letting everyone in who makes a pass at you online. Plus, it saves you a LOT of heartbreak.

2. Acceptable Harassment.

If you’ve used Tinder before, you probably know that conversations almost never start with a “Hi, how are you?” How often do people you matched with want to know about your day, your interests, what your life is like, etc.? More often, you’re bombarded with messages asking to meet up or if you’re interested in hooking up. The first thing someone says to you is probably a creepy pick-up line or a comment that’s supposed to be a compliment.  That wouldn’t happen if you met in person. In fact, if that happened in person, you would most likely be furious at the harassment.

It seems that Tinder is a green light for disrespect and harassment. While people may not think that they’re being disrespectful, (they might actually think the exact opposite) it proves the fact that Tinder is a vehicle for viewing others as sex objects. If someone is only thinking of you as a sex object the first time you interact, what are the chances they’re going to change their mind in the future?

3. Questionable Personal Worth.

Tinder is also used for rebounding after breakups. According to The Guardian, it’s often that people who use it for this reason will find themselves in a sea of “mixed messages and rejection.” It’s no question that after getting out of a meaningful relationship and now being treated like an object, your mental health can take a serious hit.

In addition, going into Tinder knowing that someone doesn’t necessarily care about you as a person and just wants a quick hook up can leave you questioning your personal worth. Constantly being overlooked as a person who has other things to offer than sex can also perpetuate a low-self-esteem. Healthy relationships should be esteem builders, not barriers.

4. Moving Forward: Go Against the Grain.

Surveys show that you will almost never find someone on Tinder that’s 30 years or older. This proves that the trend of using social media for one-night stands is only really relevant to our age group. Of course, other factors play in and maybe we will see the continued use of Tinder as the current users get older.

Don’t forget, Tinder can’t take all the blame for this cultural norm. It wouldn’t work if no one in our society took part in it. But, you can resist this unhealthy and demeaning norm and choose to find and build healthy relationships elsewhere.

If you’re committed to finding a meaningful and healthy relationship, you’re most likely not going to find it on Tinder. From the potential for lower self-esteem and the continuation of a sex-first culture, who would want to? Know your worth and avoid Tinder.

RESOURCES:

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/aug/16/tinder-app-creating-dating-apocalypse-twitter-storm

common std myths

STD Myths: Debunked

Posted by Turning Point | Blog

With how common STDs have become among teens and young adults, there seems to be a lot of confusing information out there on the Internet – some of it true, some, not so much. This list will debunk some common STD myths, so that you can become more educated about your sexual health and continue to protect yourself in the future.

 

MYTH: “I can’t get an STD if it’s my first time having sex.”

FACT: You can contract an STD from having sex with ANYONE – even if it’s your first time.

 

Even if it is your first time being sexually active, you can still contract an STD from your partner. If your partner has had previous sexual activity, make sure that they have been tested for STDs and come back with a clean bill of health. Sexual history is an important topic for you and your partner to discuss before engaging in any sexual activity.

 

 

MYTH: “I will be able to tell if my partner has an STD.”

FACT: There are often no physical signs that a person has an STD

 

You might think you’ll somehow know if your partner has an STD by just looking at them, but in reality, that’s not the case at all. STDs often take a long time to show physical symptoms, and some don’t show signs at all. Even if you or your partner feels 100% healthy, it is still possible to have and transmit an STD.

 

 

MYTH: “If I use two condoms, it will protect me from STDs even more than one will.”

FACT: It’s important to only wear ONE condom

 

When you double up condoms, the friction between the two can rub against each other and actually cause breakage. This can cause the transfer of STDs and may even cause accidental pregnancy.

 

 

MYTH: “I can’t contract an STD if I’m not having intercourse.”

FACT: You can contract an STD from oral or anal sex, as well as vaginal intercourse.

 

Many STDs can be contracted via semen, blood, or genital contact. Infections such as oral herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HPV can all be contracted via oral sex.

 

MYTH: “If I’ve had a Pap Smear, I don’t need to get tested for STDs.”

FACT: Pap Smears do not test for STDs.

 

Pap smears are tests that check for abnormalities in the cervix that can be indicative of cervical cancer, but do not check for STDs. The HPV virus can put you at risk for cervical cancer, so it is important to women to have Pap Smears done regularly, as well as STD testing.

 

If You’re Pregnant:

If you think may be pregnant, you could be at risk of having an STD. Untreated STDs can complicate your pregnancy, and have potentially serious health effects on both you and your baby. For these reasons, it is extremely important for you to get tested for an STD.

 

If you’ve had unprotected sex or think you may be pregnant, Turning Point is here for you. Make your free and confidential appointment with Turning Point today, and our friendly and caring staff can help you with your next steps.

Maybe you’ve recently had unprotected sex, missed a few birth control pills, or experienced a condom failure. You’re worried sick… and can’t shake the feeling that something is off. You wonder: “Am I pregnant?”

 

During this confusing, emotional time, your mind might be racing, without any idea of what to do next. Before you worry too much, take a deep breath, and follow these steps below:

 

  1. Wait until you’ve missed your period

 

Before you rush to a pharmacy to buy a pregnancy test, wait until you’ve missed your period. Some early pregnancy symptoms intersect with PMS symptoms, so you may be worried for nothing. Plus, at home tests are not at their peak accuracy until after your period is late.

 

Next, determine how late is too late for your missed period. Write the dates down of your last cycle, and the date that you were supposed to get your period. Then, base your worry on your own body. If you usually get your period a few days early or late, then wait a few extra days to ensure that your period is actually late. If you normally get your period on the dot, a couple days may be enough to take the next step.

 

Remember, periods can be late for a variety of reasons. Stress, low body weight, hormonal birth control, and illness can all contribute to a missed period, without being pregnant.

 

  1. Take a pregnancy test

 

Many women turn to an over-the-counter pregnancy test to determine whether they are pregnant. These tests have gotten much more accurate over time, but there is still a chance that a test could produce false results, depending on the amount of pregnancy hormone (or lack thereof) in your body. At Turning Point, we provide free lab-quality pregnancy tests when you make an appointment with us.

 

 

  1. Visit a pregnancy help center, like Turning Point

 

After confirming your pregnancy through a pregnancy test, you will need to have an ultrasound to determine how far along you are, and if your pregnancy is viable. According to the Mayo Clinic, 10 to 20 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage. An ultrasound can help determine whether you might miscarry. Our center offers free obstetric ultrasounds that will tell us all the information you need regarding your pregnancy.

 

  1. Tell those involved

 

It’s important to realize that whatever your next steps, the decision is yours to make.

 

If anyone is pushing you to do something with your pregnancy that you don’t agree with, know that you are in charge of your body. Turning Point can help you facilitate those hard conversations and discuss your options with you and those involved.

 

If you do not have the support you need from your family or partner, our friendly and knowledgeable staff at Turning Point is here for you. You don’t have to go through this alone.

 

 

  1. Know your options

 

If you are pregnant, you have more options than you think. Visit Turning Point to learn more about these options, so that you can make an informed decision that is 100% your own. Turning Point can also supply you with educational resources and ongoing support to help you along the way. No matter the situation, Turning Point is here for you.

 

Visit Turning Point PRC for a free pregnancy test and judgment-free information on all your options.

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Forming valuable relationships is an essential step toward a rewarding life. Relationships are an integral part of being human, and constructive relationships have the potential to improve your livelihood.

Whether the relationship is long-term or a newly formed friendship, they should always be completely respectful.

In an unhealthy relationship, the other person will often:

 

  • Try to control you—with kindness 

A person’s kindness isn’t always a true indicator of their actual intentions. Sometimes, a person in an unhealthy relationship uses kindness as a tool for manipulation. When they realize their acts of kindness result in them getting what they want, they sometimes abuse their power.

Does the person’s kindness often seem forced, or illegitimate? Do they choose to be kind only on specific occasions, their kindness and consideration often turning out to be short-lived?

If the answer is yes, you may want to re-examine your relationship and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

  • Attempt to change you

 When two people are in a healthy relationship, they appreciate each other’s uniqueness. They may motivate each other to make beneficial life changes, but ultimately, they respect each other for the distinct individuals they are. If any concerns come up regarding the other person, they feel comfortable calmly discussing the conflict in a compassionate manner.

A person who values your relationship will not attempt to turn you into something you’re not. They appreciate you for your genuine self, and don’t actively seek out ways you should modify yourself.

 

  • Blame you for your feelings

You shouldn’t ever feel guilty about the way you feel—emotions are an indispensable part of life. The point in forming a worthwhile relationship is to build each other up and offer endless support, not inflict more stress.

If you’re upset and made to feel ashamed about it, you might need to step away from the relationship. Is the other person acting reasonable? Do they have good intentions, or do they refuse to meet you in the middle? Be sure not to make any excuses for them, though it may feel tempting or unavoidable.

  

  • Need you—too much 

Sometimes when a person is a part of an unhealthy relationship, they request the other person’s presence in an unreasonable way. They often convince the other person to change their plans or cater to their desired arrangements.

Do you have a friend who acts offended every time you make plans without her—even if they’re with someone she doesn’t know? Does your partner make you feel guilty for wanting to spend time with other people?

These characteristics are often associated with intimate relationships, but friendships can be affected, too. There’s a fine line between appreciating your company and becoming possessive—and it’s in your best interest to identify that line early on.

 

  • Have bad former relationships

The status of a person’s past relationships is a good indication of their capacity to form healthy new ones. If they are on bad terms with all their ex-partners or hold grudges with various former friends, you may want to consider this a warning sign.

It’s also important to feel secure within your relationship, which can be damaged by a reputation for lying. Do you feel your relationship is strong enough to form a lasting bond? Do you genuinely trust each other? Does the other person act in a way that leads you to think they genuinely care for you?

If you find yourself constantly worrying about the other person sticking around, it may be time to find someone who you know will always be there.

 

  • Disregard your dreams

One of the best parts about achieving your dreams is sharing the news with someone who cares greatly for you. A healthy relationship requires constant motivation and a genuine desire to see the other person succeed.

If you’re constantly sharing your passions and dreams with someone who gives you nothing in return, you may not be a part of a relationship that you deserve. Instead, consider forming a relationship with people who celebrate your interests, and push you to take risks.

 

  • Be dismissive and unreasonable

When you’re in a relationship, your success should make the other person happy. You should acknowledge the other person’s impressive accomplishments and provide them the support needed to become even more successful.

In an unhealthy relationship, one person will often assume they’re the smart one, disallowing any opportunities for open-minded discussion. They often become jealous when the other person reaches their goals, and instead of rooting for them like a supportive companion, they gloat and await their failure.

 

No matter the type of your relationship, it should always be a healthy one. You deserve to be surrounded by people who make your life more enjoyable—not more of a struggle.

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Two people can’t be expected to agree on absolutely everything, all the time. In fact, conflict is a normal and necessary component of any healthy relationship.

People often disagree over things that seem trivial: ideas, desires, motivations, values and perceptions. When conflict triggers strong feelings, differing personal needs are usually the root of the problem.

Instead of avoiding conflict, learning how to properly deal with it is crucial in developing a strong, lasting bond with the other person.

 

Reduce tension appropriately

When facing conflict, it’s important to remain calm, non-defensive and respectful. It helps to pay attention to your own emotions, so you can determine how they may factor into your decision-making.

Studies show that moments of joy help people surmount adversity. You can try using a humorous approach to say things that might otherwise come off as offensive. Just be sure to laugh with them—not at them.

 

Be willing to agree to disagree

Since conflict is unavoidable, it’s important to pick your battles. From the start, you should seek compromise and avoid imposing any pre-meditated punishment.

Be aware and respectful of the differences others are bound to possess. Besides, differences are what make a relationship fun and worthwhile! Know when to let someone go if the chemistry is undoubtedly unfit.

 

Prioritize understanding, not “winning” or “being right”

The capacity to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person is integral to a healthy relationship. When you respect your partner’s viewpoint, a lot of fighting can be avoided.

When you prioritize understanding the other person’s feelings over “winning,” you can avoid any issues that may have otherwise gone unresolved.

 

Pay attention to the other person’s emotions

In order to efficiently solve conflict, it’s helpful to focus your attention beyond what is said. Instead, you should listen for what is felt. A person’s tone can give a lot of context about their internal emotions.

Most importantly, when you understand someone’s emotions, you can use empathy as a tool to make things right and mend any broken relationships.

 

Stay focused on the present

In the midst of conflict, be sure to stay focused on the issue at hand. Facing an issue head-on is usually the best option for both sides, and allows for more control of emotions and behavior.

Let go of any resentment and be willing to forgive and forget. Not only do you owe it to the other person, but you also owe it to yourself. Leaving your conflicts in the past can take a hefty weight off your shoulders, and allow you to focus on the things that matter.

 

To sum up, conflict is an unavoidable element that can make or break any relationship. By handling conflict in a healthy way, you can make your relationship stronger and more resilient than ever.

Source: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm

Love vs. infatuation

The word “love” is thrown around quite often nowadays—but is it used correctly? You feel love when you care very strongly and deeply for another person. You support them, you work with them to solve conflict, and you’re willing to stand by them in good times and bad.

Just like love, infatuation (or lust) is powerful. It gives you goosebumps, and swarms your thoughts with wonderful daydreams. Having this sort of “crush” can be a lot of fun, but the feelings of infatuation can be so intense that we often mistake them for love. Differences between the two include:

Love gradually becomes deeper and more powerful over time. Infatuation is often powerful more immediately, but short-lived.

We see it all the time in TV and movies—people meeting and having a strong physical attraction immediately. Unfortunately, they almost always call it love—which is nonsense. True love begins great, and continues to get increasingly greater. Though infatuation can initially feel just as powerful, it fades fast.

Love considers the other person. Infatuation is selfish.

People who are in love value each other’s feelings over “winning” a dispute. They would rather spend time enjoying each other than proving themselves right. True love survives and solves conflict, while infatuation simply glosses over it.

Love accepts the entire person, imperfections and all. Infatuation flourishes on perfection.

Love goes beyond physical attraction—it values the person’s mind, body, and soul. A person who is in love accepts every flaw of their significant other, and does not ask them to change for selfish reasons. On the other hand, infatuation focuses on the physical and attempts to hide or change the other person’s flaws.

Love brings you up. Infatuation eventually brings you down.

Love is energizing; it improves your overall disposition and makes you feel like your best self. Thinking about the person you’re in love with brightens your spirits and makes you feel happy. On the contrary, infatuation feels draining. It brings out jealousy and obsessiveness in each other, and can cause you to neglect other relationships.

What does it mean to love someone? It’s helpful to outline the differences between love and having a “crush.”

Love allows you to be yourself. Crushes are all about perfection.

Love accepts the other person’s flaws. Crushes suppress them.

Love goes beyond looks. Crushes revolve around physical attraction.

Love develops overtime. Crushes occur right away.

Love can last a while. Crushes are often short-lived.

Love makes you energetic. Crushes tired you out.

Love makes you happy. Crushes make you jealous.

Both love and crushes are powerful.

Remember… infatuation is very normal, and it’s bound to happen—you’re not going to fall in love with every person you meet! Just make sure both people in the relationship are on the same page.

source: sexuality resource center for parents

boundaries of physical touch

Problems tend to arise in a relationship when we don’t realize that people have different ways of giving love. Some people prefer to talk about their feelings, while others prefer the “love language” of touch. 

Current research shows that physical touch can provide many health benefits, like improved attitude and feelings of connection—but this doesn’t exclusively apply to sex. Sometimes, holding your partner’s hand, rubbing their shoulders, or ending an argument with a hug is all it takes to say, “I love you.” Just keep one thing in mind: no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, both you and your partner should know each other’s wants, goals, fears and limits. You both should always feel comfortable communicating your honest needs, without fear of your partner’s response.

Establishing Physical Boundaries

Getting physical with your partner should never happen if you’re not ready. A healthy relationship involves both partners knowing each other’s limits, and they communicate to each other if something changes.

It’s also important to understand that you don’t owe your partner anything in a relationship, and sex isn’t currency. It’s never fair for your partner to claim you don’t care about them if you’re not ready to have sex. Even if you’ve done it before, pressure is completely unacceptable.

Below are some thoughtful responses to unwanted pressure:

Talk about your decision to refrain from sex

It’s important to explain your desire not to have sex as soon as things become romantic. You can reassure your partner that it has nothing to do with a lack of feelings, or your level of commitment. You can also remind them that you don’t want to ruin a great relationship by doing something you’re not ready to do. This conversation takes a lot of courage, however, talking things out is much healthier than keeping things deeply hidden.

Know where you stand in your convictions

Are you willing and able to bear the responsibility of having sex? Do you want to be a person who waits until they are married? If so, why? It’s important to let your partner know what you believe in so you are not pressured to give in. Most people with a clear understanding of what they believe in are less susceptible to do things they don’t want to do.

Learn what real love is while you wait

The term love is one of the most used and abused words in the dictionary. Here’s the catch; love never demands someone to do something that would violate the other, or trash his or her deeply held values. Real love is patient, and always looks after the other person.

Sometimes, a man will say that if a girlfriend really loves him, she will be willing to have sex. This means two things—either he doesn’t know what love is, or he’s lying about loving her. It’s easy to believe a lie when you have strong feelings for someone, but it’s certainly not easy to face the consequence of believing in that lie.

If the pressure continues

It’s best to get rid of any partner that is pressuring you to have sex. Pressure is a big red flag that something isn’t right in your relationship, and it’s never worth any future regret. Sex is not an indicator of love, or even your level of commitment.

Beyond Sexual Relationships

Abusive physical touch can also be nonsexual. Any force during an argument, whether it involves the abuser holding down their partner, physically restraining their partner from leaving, or pushing or shoving are crucial warning signs. Holding someone back in order to make demands is also a show of force.

If you are worried about the physical boundaries of your relationship, talk to someone. You should never feel anything but 100% comfortable with your partner’s physical touch.

Remember, domestic violence is “the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another,” (NCADV). For anonymous, confidential help available 24/7, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) now.

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs pregnancy medical services, community referrals and even advice! To receive help today, please call us at (858) 397-1970, text at (858) 822-9335, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

STD Blog

What do I need to know about STDs?

Posted by Turning Point | Blog

Chances are, you’ve heard about STDs before. You might have heard of some of the most common ones—but unless you’ve personally dealt with a sexually transmitted disease, that’s likely the full extent of your knowledge.

Are you aware of the most common STDs among American women? Do you know what symptoms to look for, or the resources available to you? We’re dedicated to providing women with information and resources to keep them healthy and happy.

 

The Treatable

Chlamydia

The most common curable STD is Chlamydia, a bacterial infection that usually has no symptoms, which is why screening for the infection is crucial. It spreads through sexual contact with the penis, vagina, mouth or anus of an infected person, and it can also be passed from a pregnant woman to her baby during childbirth.

There are almost 3 million new cases of Chlamydia each year in the United States. An infected person can be treated with antibiotics, but can get the infection again. Without treatment, Chlamydia can cause serious health problems and infertility. Latex condoms are effective in preventing the disease.

Gonorrhea

This STD occurs when bacteria infects the lining of a woman’s reproductive tract, and can also develop in the urethra, mouth, throat, eyes and anus of both men and women. It spreads through sexual contact, and like chlamydia, can be transferred to a baby during childbirth.

People with gonorrhea often have mild or no symptoms, and treatment involves two different antibiotics. Without treatment, women are more prone to develop pelvic inflammatory disease, which increases the risk of infertility and pregnancy complications.

Trichomoniasis

Trichomaniasis is the most common sexually transmitted disease among sexually active young women, with more than a million new cases in the US each year. The infection is caused by a parasite that passes from one person to another during sex, and usually develops in the genital area. In women, trich causes a vaginal infection called vaginitis.

Trichomoniasis normally doesn’t cause symptoms, but some people experience burning or itching during urination and intercourse, irregular discharge, or strong vaginal odor. The disease is usually treated with a single oral dose of metronidazole, which is also used to treat bacterial vaginosis.

It is also important that your sexual partners be treated for trich at the same time as you are (whether male or female), or else you will simply pass the disease back and forth. Those that are infected with trichomoniasis are more susceptible to infection by HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Pregnant women with trich are more likely to have a pre-term birth and a low birth weight baby.

Syphilis

Syphilis is an STD that can cause long-term complications if not treated correctly. Symptoms in adults are divided into stages: primary, secondary, latent, and late syphilis. The late stage can occur 10-30 years after infection.

Syphilis is typically spread by direct contact with a sore during vaginal, anal, or oral sex. It can also be spread from an infected mother to her unborn baby. Pregnant women with syphilis are also more likely to deliver their babies too early or stillborn.

Since syphilis sores can be hidden in places like the vagina, anus, and mouth, it may not be obvious that a partner is infected. Unless you know that a partner has been tested and treated, you may be at risk.

While syphilis can be cured with proper antibiotics, treatment cannot undo any damage that the infection has already caused. Having syphilis once does not protect you from getting infected again.

 

The Untreatable

Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)

Human papilloma virus, or HPV, is possibly the most common sexually transmitted disease, and can infect the genitals, mouth, and throat. A study conducted in 2007 concluded that one-quarter of the population of sexually active women are infected at any given time.

Contrary to popular belief, only a few types of HPV are linked to cervical cancer. The other 40+ strains cause genital warts, other warts, or no symptoms at all.

Though HPV is considered incurable, its symptoms can be treated, and most people resolve infections on their own. Most people infected with harmful strains of HPV have no symptoms until they develop other health issues.

Genital Herpes

Genital Herpes comes from the herpes simplex virus, type 1 (most often associated with cold sores) or type 2 (most often associated with genital sores), and it affects more than a quarter of the population. The infection can be caused by vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who is infected, meaning it is possible to transmit herpes from the mouth to genitals and vice versa.

Some people with herpes experience mild symptoms or none at all. Other people have outbreaks of lesions that look like blisters around their genitals, rectum, or mouth, which can break open and become painful sores that take a long time to heal. The fluid inside the herpes sores contains the virus.

Outbreaks can happen again and again, but typically become shorter and less severe over time. Since the virus can spread through the skin, infection can be caused by contact, however, infected people can still pass the virus even if they don’t have sores.

Though there is no cure for herpes, doctors can prescribe medicines that ease the pain and help prevent and shorten outbreaks. Herpes infection can be deadly to infants, but luckily, infection transmission during pregnancy is relatively rare. Mothers infected with genital herpes should discuss their diagnosis with an obstetrician, and a cesarean section may be recommended if there is an active outbreak during the time of birth.

In addition to these six infections, there are several other sexually transmitted diseases that affect American women. Lucky, regular testing can keep you in track of your sexual health even when symptoms are unnoticeable.

For more information about different types of STDs, symptoms and testing, click here. If you had unprotected sex and are worried you might be pregnant or have an STD, you can make a free appointment with us by clicking here.

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs pregnancy medical services, community referrals and even advice! To receive help today, please call us at (858) 397-1970, text at (858) 822-9335, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

Unprotected Sex

If you’ve just had unprotected sex, there are so many emotions and thoughts running through your mind. Like so many others that have been in this situation, you’re probably having trouble getting your head around what just happened and you’re looking for advice. The most important thing is to take care of yourself. Here are 5 things that you should do after having unprotected sex.

Don’t Panic

Although this might be your first instinct, it’s important to stay calm. Having a one-night stand or not using protection with your significant other can leave you with feelings of shame or regret. Take some time to assess the situation and clear your head, and realize that your self-worth is not the sum of your decisions.

Talk To Someone You Trust

If you’re still upset, it might help to talk to a family member or close friend. Whether you’re looking for advice or maybe just comfort, talking to someone you trust can help you to calm yourself down, and possibly help to identify your next step.

Test For STDs

Even if you used a condom, it’s still possible for you to get an STD. STDs can spread through sexual and oral contact. If left untreated, STDs can become worse and potentially life threatening. However, most STDs can be treated or managed with medication, especially if caught early. If you think you or your partner might have an STD, it’s important to get tested two weeks after having sex, and then go back in for a follow-up appointment to make sure you’re all clear.

Monitor For Pregnancy

If you think you might be pregnant and you’re worried you’ve missed your period, it might be time to take a pregnancy test. Home pregnancy tests are most accurate if taken one week after your missed period. But be aware, home pregnancy tests can produce false negatives. It’s best to schedule an appointment for a medical-quality pregnancy test

Visit A Pregnancy Resource Center

A pregnancy resource center can confirm your pregnancy through a pregnancy test, test for STDs and even administer an ultrasound. If you’re worried about your next steps, our friendly and knowledgeable staff can give you the resources you need to make an informed decision about your future.

 

Turning Point is here to assist any woman that needs medical care, community referrals and even parenting advice! To receive help today, please call us at 858-397-1970, or send a confidential email to info@mmpregnancy.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

How to Decompress After the Holidays

Like plants and animals, humans intuitively know they need to rest during the winter months to prepare for the renewal of spring; it’s an ideal time of year to treat yourself extra well, cleanse your body, and re-energize. Unfortunately, stress is a fact of life for many of us during and after the holidays. Between the parties, shopping, and hectic work and travel schedules, we all could set some “me time” to decompress and re-focus. Follow our tips below and put aside a few minutes—or even hours—for self-care each day. You won’t regret it!
Give Your Body What It Needs
Start your day off right by eating breakfast before you fill up on coffee. Caffeine on an empty stomach causes blood sugar levels to spike, leading to attention problems and irritability.

Foods that are rich with Omega-3, like fatty fish, walnuts, flaxseeds and enriched eggs can combat the stress hormone called cortisol. Care to savor a spicy dish instead? Hot foods trigger the release of endorphins, which are natural chemicals that cause feelings of euphoria and well-being.

In the evening, try to drink caffeine-free tea with calming acids, such as chamomile, Sleepy Time, or green tea. Sweeten it up with a spoonful of honey; research shows that its antioxidant and antibacterial properties may improve your immunity.

In addition to food and drink, essential oils can do wonders to improve your temperament. Researchers studying depression have found that certain citrus scents boost feelings of well-being and alleviate stress by upping levels of norepinephrine, a hormone that affects mood.
Get Up And Get Moving
It’s important to give yourself 15 minutes of fresh air a day, since sunlight provides us with vitamin D (even when it’s overcast). The rhythm and repetition of a brisk, half-hour walk has a tranquilizing effect on the brain, decreasing anxiety and improving sleep. Exercise also releases endorphins, a chemicals that interacts= with receptors in the brain to trigger a positive feeling in the body. Research has found that workouts can boost your mood for up to 12 hours at a time!

For a less intense regimen, consider meditation, yoga or t’ai chi—basically anything that involves deep breathing. Breathe in through your nose and exhale through your mouth; your stomach should rise and your chest should move very little. The key to deep breathing is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible in your lungs. The more oxygen you get, the less tense, short of breath, and anxious you feel.
Take Time To Wind Down
When trying to decompress from the holidays, it’s helpful to go to bed earlier than usual—ideally by 10 pm. Wind down by reading a book or taking a warm bath; just be sure to avoid any screens at least an hour before you plan to go to sleep. New research shows that reading from a device such as an iPad before bed not only makes it harder to fall asleep, but also impacts how sleepy and alert you are the next day. Many people report that their stress increases when the length and quality of their sleep decreases.

You can also try to replace electric lighting with candles and put relaxing music on. Research from the University of Maryland shows that listening to music you love can relax blood vessels and increase blood flow, which not only calms you down but is also good for the heart.

 

No matter which method you choose to combat holiday exhaustion, you can cultivate some habits to keep you centered for the rest of the year!

 

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