Tips on Becoming an Amazing Father

While Turning Point is known for assisting women in crisis, we haven’t forgotten about the men out there in San Diego County! From our Brothers in Arms initiative to one-on-one counseling, we have the support personnel, programs and compassion to help fathers-to-be prepare for one of the most joyous, exciting and unpredictable time in their lives – the onset of fatherhood!

Author Scott Kelby, author of The Book for Guys Who Don’t Want Kids, recently unveiled a few of his tips to become a great father. Forged from personal experience, Mr. Kelby’s advice rings true for would-be fathers of any age or background.

Here are some highlights:

Return to “normal” when you can

  • Pre-child and post-child lives are like two different worlds, but it helps to reclaim a sense of “normalcy” whenever you can. Take trips with your child. Don’t be afraid of restaurants. Life the life you used to, with your child along for the ride!

Don’t worry, be happy

  • Easier said than done, but think about it: you helped bring a bouncing baby into this world, so enjoy the moment – and all the upcoming, unforgettable moments as well. Worry about the future when the future arrives. But for now, relish the experience of fatherhood!

Help carry the load

  • Part of becoming a great father is becoming a great partner or spouse. Help with feeding, changing diapers and other tasks – you’ll gain a greater bond with your child, and mom will appreciate the gestures as well!

Keep your “advice filter” on

  • Everyone from your Uncle Dave (everyone has an Uncle Dave) to your friends will offer their input on the best way to raise a child. Use what works for you; not everything you hear applies to your particular family.

The Turning Point Pregnancy Resource Center helps mothers and fathers, and we’re always here to help! Don’t hesitate to contact us; for a helping hand with fatherhood or a different perspective, please give us a call at 858-397-1970

The Advantages of an Unexpected Pregnancy

At Turning Point, we’ve helped hundreds of women deal with unplanned and unexpected pregnancies. One common thread we’ve noticed throughout each individual case – and no two paths to motherhood are exactly the same – is that every unplanned pregnancy has its own silver lining.

Despite the exasperation, desperation, stress, anxiety, fear, and the overwhelming rollercoaster of emotions that invariably impact every woman in this situation, look on the bright side: there are actually advantages to an unplanned pregnancy!


The Positives of Pregnancy: Embracing the Moment – and Eventually, Your Child!


Mistimed or unwanted pregnancies, according to recent data, account for nearly half of all pregnancies in the United States. Hey, there’s one positive already: you’re not the only one going through this trying situation.

But there are more – plenty more, as we’ve discovered through the years. And here are just some of the advantages of an unplanned pregnancy:


  • You become more disciplined

    The sudden knowledge of a pregnancy concentrates the mind wonderfully. Your newfound discipline may take many forms; dietary, financial, personal, you name it. When you’re living for another person and not just yourself, you tend to “button up” some of your bad habits naturally.

  • Firmed-up finances

    Regardless of your income, an unplanned pregnancy requires sound financial decisions. Many young mothers are surprised at how less stressful their financial situation is after becoming pregnant. From the pre-delivery planning to post-birth expenses, an unplanned pregnancy just has a way of unintentionally optimizing your financial life.

  • You’ll never have to make an excuse again.

    Before your unplanned pregnancy, getting out of something you didn’t want to do required a little creative talking. In its own way, an unplanned pregnancy is the ultimate “line in the sand” for your personal life. Plus, you may just end up dropping a few bad time-wasting habits along the way, too!

  • You’ll gain a better perspective – in everything you do.

    If you’re the “perfect planner” type, be prepared to live life differently. Few things happen on a flawless schedule, as an unplanned pregnancy so obviously illustrates. But the pregnancy is just the beginning; raising a child takes guts, perseverance, honesty, love, courage, faith and a thousand other things. Most of all, an unplanned pregnancy shows that you’ll make mistakes – and sometimes, those “mistakes” end up being the best thing that could possibly happen to you!

From our standpoint, the greatest advantage of an unplanned pregnancy is the end result: your newborn child. And even if you’re unsure of where your pregnancy will take you or your baby, Turning Point has the resources, counseling and support structure in place – we’ll even help you find an adoption agency, if that’s your ultimate decision – to ensure your unplanned pregnancy has more advantages than you ever thought possible!

If you’d like to talk with one of our unplanned pregnancy mentors, please call our main office at 858-397-1970. Our Miramar office in northern San Diego is now supplemented by the Turning Point Mobile Pregnancy Clinic in Mountain View, located in the southern section of the city. From every direction, we’re here to help you regardless of your individual situation. Please call and get help today – and thanks for reading our blog!