Tips on Becoming an Amazing Father

While Turning Point is known for assisting women in crisis, we haven’t forgotten about the men out there in San Diego County! From our Brothers in Arms initiative to one-on-one counseling, we have the support personnel, programs and compassion to help fathers-to-be prepare for one of the most joyous, exciting and unpredictable time in their lives – the onset of fatherhood!

Author Scott Kelby, author of The Book for Guys Who Don’t Want Kids, recently unveiled a few of his tips to become a great father. Forged from personal experience, Mr. Kelby’s advice rings true for would-be fathers of any age or background.

Here are some highlights:

Return to “normal” when you can

  • Pre-child and post-child lives are like two different worlds, but it helps to reclaim a sense of “normalcy” whenever you can. Take trips with your child. Don’t be afraid of restaurants. Life the life you used to, with your child along for the ride!

Don’t worry, be happy

  • Easier said than done, but think about it: you helped bring a bouncing baby into this world, so enjoy the moment – and all the upcoming, unforgettable moments as well. Worry about the future when the future arrives. But for now, relish the experience of fatherhood!

Help carry the load

  • Part of becoming a great father is becoming a great partner or spouse. Help with feeding, changing diapers and other tasks – you’ll gain a greater bond with your child, and mom will appreciate the gestures as well!

Keep your “advice filter” on

  • Everyone from your Uncle Dave (everyone has an Uncle Dave) to your friends will offer their input on the best way to raise a child. Use what works for you; not everything you hear applies to your particular family.

The Turning Point Pregnancy Resource Center helps mothers and fathers, and we’re always here to help! Don’t hesitate to contact us; for a helping hand with fatherhood or a different perspective, please give us a call at 858-397-1970

The Advantages of an Unexpected Pregnancy

At Turning Point, we’ve helped hundreds of women deal with unplanned and unexpected pregnancies. One common thread we’ve noticed throughout each individual case – and no two paths to motherhood are exactly the same – is that every unplanned pregnancy has its own silver lining.

Despite the exasperation, desperation, stress, anxiety, fear, and the overwhelming rollercoaster of emotions that invariably impact every woman in this situation, look on the bright side: there are actually advantages to an unplanned pregnancy!

 

The Positives of Pregnancy: Embracing the Moment – and Eventually, Your Child!

 

Mistimed or unwanted pregnancies, according to recent data, account for nearly half of all pregnancies in the United States. Hey, there’s one positive already: you’re not the only one going through this trying situation.

But there are more – plenty more, as we’ve discovered through the years. And here are just some of the advantages of an unplanned pregnancy:

 

  • You become more disciplined

    The sudden knowledge of a pregnancy concentrates the mind wonderfully. Your newfound discipline may take many forms; dietary, financial, personal, you name it. When you’re living for another person and not just yourself, you tend to “button up” some of your bad habits naturally.

  • Firmed-up finances

    Regardless of your income, an unplanned pregnancy requires sound financial decisions. Many young mothers are surprised at how less stressful their financial situation is after becoming pregnant. From the pre-delivery planning to post-birth expenses, an unplanned pregnancy just has a way of unintentionally optimizing your financial life.

  • You’ll never have to make an excuse again.

    Before your unplanned pregnancy, getting out of something you didn’t want to do required a little creative talking. In its own way, an unplanned pregnancy is the ultimate “line in the sand” for your personal life. Plus, you may just end up dropping a few bad time-wasting habits along the way, too!

  • You’ll gain a better perspective – in everything you do.

    If you’re the “perfect planner” type, be prepared to live life differently. Few things happen on a flawless schedule, as an unplanned pregnancy so obviously illustrates. But the pregnancy is just the beginning; raising a child takes guts, perseverance, honesty, love, courage, faith and a thousand other things. Most of all, an unplanned pregnancy shows that you’ll make mistakes – and sometimes, those “mistakes” end up being the best thing that could possibly happen to you!

From our standpoint, the greatest advantage of an unplanned pregnancy is the end result: your newborn child. And even if you’re unsure of where your pregnancy will take you or your baby, Turning Point has the resources, counseling and support structure in place – we’ll even help you find an adoption agency, if that’s your ultimate decision – to ensure your unplanned pregnancy has more advantages than you ever thought possible!

If you’d like to talk with one of our unplanned pregnancy mentors, please call our main office at 858-397-1970. Our Miramar office in northern San Diego is now supplemented by the Turning Point Mobile Pregnancy Clinic in Mountain View, located in the southern section of the city. From every direction, we’re here to help you regardless of your individual situation. Please call and get help today – and thanks for reading our blog!

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teen pregnancy advice

Teenage advice usually deals with personal and social issues, and many of them (in hindsight, at least) seem rather trivial. Who reading this hasn’t experienced the following situations during their teenage years?

  • What’s the best way to get rid of pimples?
  • Is it time to seek out new friends?
  • I love playing sports, but are my extracurricular activities getting in the way of my studies?
  • How can I muster up the courage to ask <insert crush here> to the prom?

These things seem absolutely life-altering at the time, but every teenager goes through them.

However, there is something that only a few teenagers have to deal with, and it actually is life-altering, in every sense of the word.

Teenage pregnancy.

Note the description above: life-altering, not life-ruining. For San Diego County women, one of the best ways to get assistance is through Turning Point’s Next Steps initiative. We can support pregnant teenagers and help them juggle the often-conflicting roles of mother and student, and also meet both short and long-term goals – personal and professional!

Advice for Pregnant Teenagers

We’ve compiled some of the best advice for teens going through a pregnancy.

If you smoke, quit. Healthy teenagers are more susceptible to giving birth to low-weight babies, and smoking only make the problem worse. Keep this in mind: every time you puff a cigarette, your baby does, too.

Abortion isn’t the only answer. Too often, pregnant teens view abortion as the only way out. That’s simply not true. Aside from negative physical and mental health consequences, abortion takes the life of an unborn child. From adoption agency referrals to open and honest counseling sessions, Turning Point can show any teenager the extraordinary benefits of giving life a chance!

Find a helping hand. Trying to handle a teenage pregnancy alone or with minimal help is beyond frustrating. With a caring supporting cast, a teenage pregnancy changes from impossible to

Understand that redemption is within reach. The shame and embarrassment of a teenage pregnancy is enough to send the most personable, well-adjusted young woman into depression. Yet once the initial shock wears off, the stigma of a teenage pregnancy becomes something entirely different. It can transform a young mother for the better. It can produce a loving child. It can be the beginning of an unbreakable family bond. Bottom line: it’s all up to you!

If you’re a teenager going through an unplanned pregnancy and don’t know where to get help, Turning Point is a great place to start. Our counselors are willing and ready to assist you today, just like we’ve been doing for women the San Diego County since 2000. Please call us today at 858-397-1970 with any questions or concerns you have. From free pregnancy tests to adoption referrals, we have plenty of solutions to choose from.

Your Future PLans and an

Women who go through unplanned pregnancies face many challenges. One of the primary hurdles is higher education; how will ambitious future plans handle the time constraints of motherhood? Don’t confuse difficult with impossible, especially if you have a great support structure in place. Turning Point’s Next Steps program looks at each individual woman’s personal, family and professional ambitions, and then works to develop a concrete plan to achieve those goals.

Achieving your “dream job” and being a successful mother aren’t mutually exclusive; Turning Point has assisted hundreds of women in the greater San Diego dealing with unplanned pregnancy challenges and tests, and with the Next Steps program, we’ll even provide the mentoring and inspiration to succeed on real-life, in-class tests as well!

Staying on Track Before and After Pregnancy

One of the ways Turning Point assists women in crisis pregnancies is through empowerment. We don’t look at an unplanned pregnancy as an immovable roadblock that will prevent you from realizing your dreams; on the contrary, it’s only a temporary detour along the way. An unexpected pregnancy followed by motherhood provides enough self-learning as many master-level university courses; in a way, an unplanned pregnancy might end up inspiring you to more than you ever thought possible!

But first, let’s look at three different ways you can make an unexpected pregnancy and future plans work.

Subtract at least one year off your original timeline. While a pregnancy is 9 months, the immediate aftermath – getting family support, managing the responsibilities of motherhood, etc. – is also a period of adjustment.

Example: you’re on track to graduate in the spring of 2019, but just discovered you’re pregnant. Keep a positive attitude, do all you can to prepare accordingly, and bump back your expected graduation to the spring of 2020, or the fall, just to be safe.

Don’t tackle personal goals by yourself. It sounds counter-productive, but raising a child requires considerable support from family, friends, and even advocacy groups (such as Turning Point). Similarly, to obtain all of your future goals, you need an effective support structure in place.

Seek outside assistance. Keeping with the teamwork philosophy from our previous point, it’s always a good idea to explore different avenues and find another way toward your goal. For post-high school education, for instance, there are many programs and grants available for new mothers; it’s just a matter of finding the right one. Turning Point’s counselors and staff have helped many women achieve their educational goals, all while still raising a child (or children).

Turning Point offers a wide range of referrals, assistance programs and other means to help any woman reach her goals, regardless of the present situation. We believe present circumstances shouldn’t define future success – that’s what the Next Steps plan is all about. Set your goals and stay on track – contact Turning Point today! To speak with one of our counselors today, please call 858-397-1970.

 

 

5 tips on how tohandle an unexpected Pregnancy

A pregnancy can be an emotional rollercoaster. Within a matter of months, your life will change forever. How will you react? Will your baby be healthy? And what about your family? How will they handle the upcoming changes?

So many questions, so few answers – and that’s with a regularly planned pregnancy!

Imagine all the turmoil, uncertainty, excitement and anxiousness surrounding a regular pregnancy. Multiply it by five, and you have a pretty good idea of how tumultuous an unexpected pregnancy can be!

An unexpected pregnancy presents a whole other set of challenges, and this blog post will review a few tips on how to handle the biggest hurdles in your way.

Unexpected Pregnancy Gameplan

Here are a handful of strategies to employ that will help get you through an unexpected, unplanned or crisis pregnancy.

  • Realize that it’s OK to be upset. An unexpected pregnancy might be the most challenging emotional experience that anyone can experience, bar none. So it’s OK to let your true emotions play out. Instead of suppressing all your anxiety and frustration, have a little “me time.” An unexpected pregnancy is difficult to manage at first, and there’s nothing wrong with admitting as much.
  • Don’t base your decision on someone else’s opinion. Aside from your own personal well-being, you might have a different decision than your partner, parents, friends, etc. For example, if the father says he’s not ready for fatherhood, it might be a reaction out of fear, uncertainty, financial pressures, etc. Emotions are heightened during a crisis and making decisions based on someone else’s emotions is probably not a wise choice.
  • Ask for help. Turning Point’s medical services, Next Steps program that identifies your needs and goal and equips you to fulfill them, plus our community connections can provide any woman with the necessary support to handle an unexpected pregnancy.
  • Assume the best. Pregnancy is an amazing journey, and the end result – a unique human being – is a miraculous experience. Motherhood can be the most rewarding, fascinating, character-building experience you’ll ever have. The “default” reaction for many women who’ve discovered they’re pregnant is: “Oh, no! I’ve really messed up!” Take the contrary approach, and imagine all the possibilities to come. To assume the best, you’ve got to think long-term, not just the immediate future.
  • Educate yourself. The more knowledge you have about pregnancy, the better off you’ll be in the long run. Brush up on pregnancy symptoms, what to expect during each trimester, and effective ways to handle the new experience of motherhood. Talk with your own mother, grandmother, aunt, friend or anyone else who has been through everything you’re about to encounter.

Turning Point’s compassionate counseling, attentive medical care and helpful programs can assist any women dealing with a crisis pregnancy. Don’t let an unexpected pregnancy control you; take control of your life and future and give us a call today at 858-397-1970. We look forward to helping you!

Pregnancy symptoms

At Turning Point, we field thousands of questions from women every month. From dealing with an uncooperative partner to questions about returning to school with a young child, we’ve been asked – and helped answer – the toughest queries regarding pregnancy.

Since 2000, when we opened our doors in San Diego County, our counselors, nurses and other staff members have noticed certain types of inquiries are asked much more frequently – and sometimes, more urgently – than others.

If we had to pick the most common questions, they probably deal with pregnancy symptoms.

Which symptoms should you be concerned with, and is there anything you can do about them? We’re glad you asked! This blog will examine some of the most common pregnancy symptoms, and what you can do to alleviate discomfort.

Symptoms and Solutions

Heartburn

This might be the king of all pregnancy issues. Excess stomach in the cause, but what’s the remedy? First of all, avoid spicy foods (we’re talking to you, buffalo wing aficionado). Other ways to combat heartburn include getting enough sleep and chewing sugarless gum. Saliva’s natural antacid properties can reduce heartburn, but just try to avoid peppermint flavor gum, as the acidic content will offset any benefits.

Headaches

Pregnancy can increase stress levels, which can make you more susceptible to headaches. While the hormonal shifts are hard to avoid, you can do a few things to minimize the impact of severe headaches. Attempt to find some quiet time every day, and try some different stress-relieving techniques. Yoga, meditation and moderate exercise can help.

Morning Sickness

Perhaps the most dreaded of all pregnancy symptoms, morning sickness is also one of the toughest to treat. Proper hydration, sufficient sleep, acupuncture, aromatherapy and even ginger mints are all worth a shot. If you’re not having much success in treating morning sickness, try to talk with as many mothers as possible to get a solution.

Constipation

The digestive system’s close relationship to hormones makes it vulnerable to the ups and downs of pregnancy. To avoid uncomfortable constipation, make sure you’re getting enough fiber. Dehydration can also exacerbate constipation, so go for 3-4 glasses of water per day, at a minimum.

Turning Point Pregnancy Resource Center helps with other symptoms related to an unplanned pregnancy: anxiety and uncertainty. When you need someone to talk to, our staff members and counselors are here to offer supportive counseling. We’ll listen to your unique concerns. We won’t judge your situation. And we’ll help you choose the best possible outcome, regardless of where you’ve been.

Our philosophy at Turning Point is that any woman has the opportunity to enjoy a promising future. Turn toward Turning Point today. Give us a call at 858-397-1970, text at: (858) 822-9335 or email at: info@mmpregnancy.com.

How to handle an unexpected pregnancy

A pregnancy can be an emotional rollercoaster. Within a matter of months, your life will change forever. How will you react? Will your baby be healthy? And what about your family? How will they handle the upcoming changes?
So many questions, so few answers – and that’s with a regularly planned pregnancy!
Imagine all the turmoil, uncertainty, excitement and anxiousness surrounding a regular pregnancy. Multiply it by five, and you have a pretty good idea of how tumultuous an unexpected pregnancy can be!
An unexpected pregnancy presents a whole other set of challenges, and this blog post will review a few tips on how to handle the biggest hurdles in your way.

Unexpected Pregnancy Gameplan

Here are a handful of strategies to employ that will help get you through an unexpected, unplanned or crisis pregnancy.
Realize that it’s OK to be upset. An unexpected pregnancy might be the most challenging emotional experience that anyone can experience, bar none. So it’s OK to let your true emotions play out. Instead of suppressing all your anxiety and frustration, have a little “me time.” An unexpected pregnancy is difficult to manage at first, and there’s nothing wrong with admitting as much.

Don’t base your decision on someone else’s opinion. Aside from your own personal well-being, you might have a different decision than your partner, parents, friends, etc. For example, if the father says he’s not ready for fatherhood, it might be a reaction out of fear, uncertainty, financial pressures, etc. Emotions are heightened during a crisis and making decisions based on someone else’s emotions is probably not a wise choice.

Ask for help. Turning Point’s medical services, Next Steps program that identifies your needs and goal and equips you to fulfill them, plus our community connections can provide any woman with the necessary support to handle an unexpected pregnancy.

Assume the best. Pregnancy is an amazing journey, and the end result – a unique human being – is a miraculous experience. Motherhood can be the most rewarding, fascinating, character-building experience you’ll ever have. The “default” reaction for many women who’ve discovered they’re pregnant is: “Oh, no! I’ve really messed up!” Take the contrary approach, and imagine all the possibilities to come. To assume the best, you’ve got to think long-term, not just the immediate future.

Educate yourself. The more knowledge you have about pregnancy, the better off you’ll be in the long run. Brush up on pregnancy symptoms, what to expect during each trimester, and effective ways to handle the new experience of motherhood. Talk with your own mother, grandmother, aunt, friend or anyone else who has been through everything you’re about to encounter.
Turning Point’s compassionate counseling, attentive medical care and helpful programs can assist any women dealing with a crisis pregnancy. Don’t let an unexpected pregnancy control you; take control of your life and future and give us a call today at 858-397-1970. We look forward to helping you!

abortion in politics

Since the infamous Roe vs. Wade Supreme Court decision in 1973, abortion has played a central role in the debate about women’s health.

The abortion issue’s political turmoil, funding battles, heated debates and possible pending legislative changes command a large chuck of public attention. Yet set aside the “talk” about abortion for a minute and consider the grim human toll. One startling statistic illustrates abortion’s impact on women, families, and unborn children: as of 2012, there have been more than 54 million abortions in the United States since Roe vs. Wade.

Looking back through the years, abortion’s importance and staggering influence on everyday life is hard to overestimate. But what about the future of abortion, especially from a political perspective?

Abortion in the United States: A Checkered Past, Chaotic Present…and Hopeful Future?

So where do we go from here? What will abortion in America look like 10, 20 or even 50 years from now? It’s impossible to predict the future, but here’s our best guess, with three key political considerations:

 

“Women’s Health Rights” Rarely Align with Unborn Children’s Rights

As Mao famously said, “Political power flows through the barrel of a gun.” That’s not quite accurate when discussing abortion. Political power regarding abortion in America flows through willful, well-organized organizations. Planned Parenthood and other groups aren’t just strong advocates for abortion; they’re also practical political operatives. Unfortunately for pro-life proponents, the term “women’s health rights” includes abortion as untouchable; any attempt to limit abortion or reduce the number of abortion clinics is instantly viewed as an attack on women’s health. And that probably won’t change in the foreseeable future.

 

Attempts to Overturn Roe vs. Wade Will Likely Start from the Top

For pro-life advocates, any attempt to strike Roe vs. Wade from the books would start at the top of the political chain of command. While grass-roots efforts are substantial, the “bully pulpit” of the U.S. President is regarded as the logical starting point for any such efforts. The current political news cycle reflects the highly-charged, high-level discussions on abortion:  Republican candidate Donald Trump, according to running mate Mike Pence, may lead efforts to overturn the infamous 1973 Supreme Court ruling. Stay tuned.

 

Regardless of Official Legal Proclamation, the Pro-Life Movement Will Remain

Many legal experts think it’s highly unlikely that Roe vs. Wade will be overturned in the U.S. court system. The U.S. Supreme Court is notoriously even-handed with controversial legislation; once an issue is settled by the highest judicial power in the country, a law being overturned is extremely rare. For the Roe vs. Wade decision, two factors that will likely keep the law on the book include:

  • Pure political will. Pro-abortion advocates regard a woman’s right to abortion along sacred lines. They’re in the fight to win, and any perceived legal maneuvers against Roe vs. Wade
  • Increasingly liberal legislators. The Supreme Court likes to model itself along impartial lines, but the legal battleground is becoming more like cede-no-ground trench warfare by the minute. Left-wing judges on one side, conservative judges on the other, with precious few “sway votes” in the middle. America is simply more liberal than it was a generation ago.

However, pro-life organizations, including non-profit groups like Turning Point, will stand steadfast as an alternative to abortion. Regardless of the political winds, strong morals provide rock-solid support for the prevailing attitude on abortion.

 

The Turning Point Pregnancy Resource Center, as a non-profit organization, is here to help all women in San Diego County, no matter what the political situation is in Washington, D.C. or the California legislature. Our compassionate care and personalized counsel has assisted thousands of women since we’ve opened in 2000. To learn more about our pregnancy clinic, please call 858-397-1970.

back to school

The choices you make today will echo far into the future – that goes for split-second decisions to things like preplanned meetings with a financial advisor.

The cumulative impact of all those decisions eventually help shape who you are – and more importantly, who you’ll become. For students heading back to school, good choices aren’t just about getting an A on a multiple-choice quiz. And for adults considering making the back-to-class journey, there are a whole other set of circumstances to think about.

For the first blog we back to school considerations, I’d like to focus on good choices and how those choices will affect their future goals and dreams. Steer away from “stay safe.” That’s the language for the past 30 years (i.e. use a condom and you are protected, safe, okay) but it hasn’t worked. We see it at Turning Point daily.

Good Choices Now = A Great Future Down the Road

What can students do to avoid a rocky road while in school? For starters, try this list:

  • Avoid Alcohol

Alcohol and college students are a volatile mix. Alcohol, college students and sex is one combination that can quickly derail academic achievement, put future plans on hold and force young adults to quickly become parents. A recent study by the National Bureau of Economic research confirms what many people already know: binge drinking leads directly to risky sex practices.

  • Stay Active, Engaged and Interested

A rigorous academic and social life on campus isn’t just beneficial for overall personal development; you’ll also stay out of trouble. High school and college clubs are a great way to foster enrichment, add resume-friendly activities and build strong community ties: a win-win for everyone involved!

  • Practice Abstinence: It’s 100% Effective!

There’s only one fool-proof method for avoiding sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs), becoming pregnant and other negative consequences stemming from sexual activity: abstinence. Condoms can work, but they fail nearly 20% of the time, according the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

  • Have a Regular Dorm Night

It’s tempting to go out every night while you’re in college, but a proper balance between your social life and studies is essential. Plus, if you’re out most of the time, it’s harder to appreciate genuine social enjoyment. There’s nothing wrong with staying in a night or two per week!

  • Don’t Believe the “Safe Sex” Myth

Many students hear about how “safe sex” is an alternative to abstinence.  But that’s simply not the case. Condoms and hormonal birth control methods DO NOT prevent STDs or pregnancies; in fact, these two “safe sex” practices can actually increase the chance of getting an STD or becoming pregnant. Many unwed and underage pregnancies are from high school and college students, while thousands of new STD cases are diagnosed on a daily basis around the U.S.

For women students faced with a crisis pregnancy while in school, contact the Turning Point Pregnancy Resource Center. From free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds to one-on-one counseling, Turning Point is willing to help in any way possible. Please call our community-based pregnancy clinic today at 858-397-1970.