Many women dream of the day they’ll get to tell their parents they’re expecting a baby. But in the case of an unplanned pregnancy, sharing the news that you are pregnant with your parents might feel like the makings of a nightmare.
While this likely won’t be the easiest conversation you’ve ever had, there are a few helpful steps to take to make this go as smoothly as possible.
Before you do anything, including breaking the news to your parents, we recommend scheduling a no-cost appointment at Turning Point Pregnancy Resource Center to confirm your pregnancy through lab-quality pregnancy testing and an ultrasound.
While a pregnancy test is a great first step in identifying whether or not you’re pregnant, an ultrasound is essential in determining if your pregnancy is viable and to ensure you don’t have any health conditions that need immediate care and attention.
The ultrasound will also tell you how far along you are, which is important information to know as you make a choice for your pregnancy.
After finding out you’re pregnant, it can be tempting to immediately think about how other people will feel. Between your parents, the father, and your community, you may feel the need to take in everyone’s opinions about the choices you should make. However, it’s important to set aside time to really determine how you feel and what you want to do moving forward.
As you make a choice for your pregnancy, whether it’s parenting, adoption, or abortion, it will help to gather the insights of those around you, but it’s important to not let those opinions overwhelm your feelings.
If you need to process your feelings with an unbiased third-party, contact Turning Point PRC to speak with one of our patient advocates. Your advocate will provide insight into the options available to you, resources you may find helpful, and a listening ear as you process your feelings.
We recommend picking a time and location that will allow your parents to process this big news. Instead of telling your parents while they’re driving a car or rushing out the door to an important meeting, consider breaking the news when everyone is sitting down and when you know there will be plenty of time for them to process and ask questions.
Finding the words may be the hardest part about telling your parents you’re pregnant, however, once they know, you will likely feel a sense of physical and emotional relief. We recommend keeping the initial news short and simple and giving your parents the space to ask questions and process.
If you feel as though your parents might react in an extreme or even violent manner, consider including a friend, teacher, or mentor in the conversation to provide accountability and protection.
You know your parents better than most people, which means you likely have a sense for how they will respond to this news. It’s important to remember that their initial reaction will likely be the strongest they will have and with time, their emotions will settle and clear thinking will prevail.
As you prepare for this conversation, you may want to take time to prepare for their reactions and any questions they may have for you. For example, if you think your parents are completely unaware you were sexually active, you may want to think through your response to their questions and reactions related to that news. Speaking with a patient advocate from Turning Point PRC can equip you with factual information so you feel comfortable sharing the news with your parents.
If your parents react negatively when they find out you are pregnant, it might be tempting to put up walls and not express how you feel. However hard it may be, it’s important you are honest with your parents about your own feelings — from worries and fears to hopes and dreams — related to your pregnancy.
If you have an idea of which pregnancy option you’re leaning towards, share that with them and ask them if they will support you through that decision.
Being honest and open with your parents might help them see that you are in need of their love and care, now more than ever.
Turning Point is here to help you navigate your unplanned pregnancy by providing advice and counseling on how to approach difficult conversations, no-cost medical care, and resources to help you make a confident choice for your pregnancy!